I mean in saying that I don't get fat shaming comments from my mum so I don't feel there's an issue. With her there's just no confidence that I can be independent and she very much feels responsible to take care of me and really fears for me. Maybe she feels responsible for my condition because of how I grow up so some of it is guilt. Also financially how would I even live on my own I barely afford it at mum's house and we have two incomes. Sometimes we just can't move out because of finances now if I had a job... Still where would I even go... I think the waiting list for a government house is 7 years