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I'm very attached to T and extremely needy and often feel out of control because of it. It seems I'm not the only one who feels this way---what a relief! Is it a good or bad thing? Are certain diagnoses more susceptible to this? Does this dependency need to happen in order to heal or does it just prolong the process?

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Hi kessa19,

From reading this forum in just the short time I've posted here, it seems that many people are VERY attached to their T. I don't think it's very healthy in some cases, but most of the time it's pretty harmless as long as boundaries are not violated from either side.

My understanding is that extreme dependency can happen to just about anyone who is susceptible at the time, and is overcome by those feelings. All disorders have varying degrees of severity, and overt behaviors can manifest themselves slightly differently from person to person. The goal should be to reduce these dependency issues with T, and to remember to focus on the problems that brought you to T, not the specific relationship with the T. If keep that in mind and work on your pre-existing issues, control can be regained.

Dependency doesn't need to happen, to answer your query; in fact, extreme dependency is counterproductive in any relationship, not just with T.
I think it will all work out for you if you remember the dysfunctional behaviors and thoughts that brought you into therapy, and try to deal with them first before you add T. to your full plate.
Best wishes kessa.