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Originally Posted by black-roses
I mean in saying that I don't get fat shaming comments from my mum so I don't feel there's an issue. With herand she very much feels responsible to take care of me and really fears for me. Maybe she feels responsible for my condition because of how I grow up so some of it there's just no confidence that I can be independent is guilt. Also financially how would I even live on my own I barely afford it at mum's house and we have two incomes. Sometimes we just can't move out because of finances now if I had a job... Still where would I even go... I think the waiting list for a government house is 7 years
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“there's just no confidence that I can be independent”
^I received these messages too from my parent and it is not true in the least, I am fully capable. What happened was I limited and sabotaged myself to keep myself dependent on others.
“Some of it is guilt”
^these feelings and realizations are something to consider from your perspective and hers.
“ financially how would I even live on my own”
^This is also something to look at thoroughly. You don’t have to be completely on your own. You could have a friend, a roommate.
“ now if I had a job... ”
^I don’t know what the condition you have is that you mentioned. Does it keep you from being able to work? You write very well and seem highly intelligent. There must be some job, and I would think possibly, some good well-paying job you could aspire to.
“Where would I even go?”
^I also don’t know your situation and the need for government housing. I would think there is a way to work toward gainful employment and financial independence.
Is there a social worker or therapist you can discuss realistically these options and make goals for yourself?
What’s the plan? Is it to remain living with your parents forever? This may be a reality due to a legitimate reason about your health. It’s something to consider if these reasons are legitimate or you got caught in a way of thinking that is keeping you stuck.