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Originally Posted by wheeler
I was seeing a T that I really didn’t click with so I decided to look for another T, which is very difficult. I kept seeing T1 thinking she was better than not having any support. But after an initial consult, with whom I didn’t match up with, I felt like I was ‘cheating’ on my current T, so I told her that I was looking for a new T. She was really good about it and she knew I wasn’t happy about how my therapy was going. I was relieved and could process what I experienced as I looked at other T’s. In the end someone she had recommended worked for me.
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I'm glad she was supportive of your search and that you found someone who works for you! I understand what you mean that you felt like you were "cheating" on her.
I know my T has said before that he's fine with me consulting with someone else, whether a one-time thing or to take a break and then return. But he prefers to know about it. And I did consult with people a couple times (told him after the fact once or twice and before the fact another time).
So now I'm wondering if I should tell him I am seeing someone else Tuesday or wait until after I see her? I know I'm not required to tell him, but it occurs to me that it could make things worse between us if I tell him after the fact. I mean, he probably suspects I'm looking around, as I'd mentioned Friday that I wondered if I needed to see someone else.
Maybe I'll see how things go Friday (assuming I keep that session), then I could choose to tell him Monday, as I see the new T Tuesday. So it would still be telling him in advance. Or I just don't say anything until I'm sure about what I want to do...