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Originally Posted by InkyBooky
I hope you'll be able to structure this ending in a way that leaves you feeling like you're aware (and unashamed) of what you need, confident that it's time for a change (even if it's painful due to your attachment to him), and that you're taking control of your own mental health and advocating for yourself as you explore appropriate next steps to continue your therapy journey with someone new.
You can be both grateful for the role he's played in your life during this time and also committed to continuing your healing with a new therapist. It's ok to do both and it's natural to have feel mixed feelings about all of it. Change and growth are hard.
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Thanks, Inky. And you're right that I can be both grateful for what Dr. T gave me and also ready to move on. The good thing is, the new T, S, has said she's completely open to talking about what happened in the Dr. T relationship and helping me process that. And that she'd expect me to need to do that.
I feel that I might feel better about leaving Dr. T once I have a couple sessions with S completed (she seemed OK with my not immediately terminating and said we could spend the first session talking about how to handle that). I mean, assuming I continue to feel good about her. Then it might help me feel more like I'm moving toward someone rather than just away from someone.
I think it will also help me if I can process this with her that it's not that *I* messed up another relationship by having feelings and being too needy (email, etc.), but that it was a mismatch and that it was Dr. T who failed me.