The whole conversation makes me doubt my perception and if I bring up what I remember they’ll bring up something else completely unrelated to the original argument that I *don’t* remember. Followed by a hail of "this is what's wrong with your character." Again not related to the topic at hand.

Ultimately I guess it’s to paint me as a narcissistic liar/ and mentally unstable.

And I don’t feel okay. I lost my mother and a whole family to this thing. So sorry I've been thinking a lot about it.

I will consult my therapist with planning out how to handle this, whether I grey rock, or cut ties completely. I hate the nuclear option. But I hate being systemically torn down and attacked for reasonably questioning what someone said to me.