Well, the thing is, he's being all wonderful now, but what happens when life stress hits again? Or what happens after a few months of good behavior? Will he slip again? Likely, yes, and then I'm in the same position.

He bought me cat food last night. I told him he didn't need to do that, but he did it anyways. I didn't see him though. He did not come over again.

And yes, being in knots is an understatement. This is an unbelievably stressful time.