I hope the counselor appointment comes through for you. Your sister has the opposite attitude of supportive about your ADD. There may be jealousy issues there from her toward you. To scare you like that is awful, like she is trying to sabotage you, keep you down, feeling small. I’m sorry she said that to you.

I’ve also always thought I had ADHD. I suspect some of my FOO have it. Two of my kids have been diagnosed with it. They both are functioning in college and in a career very responsibly and doing well. When I experienced exasperating stress in my marriage, borderline traits emerged in coping with it. I never had that before my mid 30’s! From the research I have done on all of this, it is possible these unhealthy coping ways were related to ADHD and I do not necessarily have any personality disorder. Just food for thought… The key is stopping the unhealthy behavior.

The meds can contribute to weight gain sometimes, too. Just something to consider. Also, the weight is a symptom of you not being happy in your situation, and changing that, the pounds can melt right off.