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Originally Posted by Rive.
[/i] Why should you have? There is no rule saying that you have to tell current T anything. There is nothing wrong with doing what's best for you. Who are you harming? This is therapy, this is not a friendship. The aim is to be supported for sure but also to work towards a therapeutic aim - which current T *cannot* deliver.
[/i] Because the emotional connection, sporadic as it is, is not helping you with what you initially started therapy for.
[/i] Ouch. The way you treat yourself is really harsh. What is wrong with taking the steps you need to get a professional who can help with those specific issues you have? Who are you harming in being sure where you land before severing any ties? I hear the loyalty to current T but it should not be at the detriment to your mental health.
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Thank you Rive for some truths there. I guess there is no harm in not telling current/possibly soon to be former T anything yet. I am just meeting with new potential T and I don't know how it is going to turn out. No need to be hasty even though I am pretty sure I need/want a change. But best not to leave myself without any support.
You're right. Even though I am attached to current T and she is very caring and loving toward me, she isn't helping me. She isn't doing much of anything that I can see. I have no idea what we have been doing the past 16 months. I don't mean to put her down because she did increase sessions over the summer when I wasn't doing well, and she did meet with my parents, although I don't know why, and she does genuinely seem to care...it's just, that's not enough. I'm getting older, possibly sicker, and I need help. Tangible help.
And you're right again. I was being really harsh with myself. I wouldn't be harsh like that with someone else. I would probably say it makes sense to wait and see how things play out. I am getting excited about my appointment with new potential T. I am hoping for hope. Like that she can offer me something that will actually really help me and get me to the next stage in my journey. Toward better emotional/mental health.
Thanks for your support. HUGS if wanted, Kit