Quote:
Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Have Hope- If this is at all helpful… The back and forth relationship has to do with attachment issues, and it is call the approach avoidant repetition compulsion. It is what holds a trauma bonded relationship. All I have learned from experts is that the relationship must end to stop the abusive relationship.
It doesn’t matter if you did things others judge you for. You are only human. Extreme stress brings out the worst in everyone. I always think of the Tina Turner song, “I don’t care who’s wrong or right, I don’t really want to fight no more.”
What I like about CoDA is that it has you turn control over to your Higher Power as part of the 12 step program just like AA.
|
I don't know about attachment issues.. ? But I know I am trauma bonded, I am also very much alone, I have no one to hang out with, and I am wanting/needing company and support. It's the perfect recipe for me to fall back in with seeing him again.
I really think I need a therapist... and, I need my abuse advocate, who hasn't replied to my plea for a call with him. UGH.
And thanks so much regarding what I did, i.e., sending his friend screenshots of our texts. I feel horrible about it now. But yes, extreme stress DOES bring out the absolute worst in me and anyone else, and yes, I am only human. I make mistakes, just like we all do. I must forgive myself.