For me honestly the main reason to end this marriage and to not consider things like dating him or even be friends would be him flirting with a coworker and texting her that he hopes to see her in her dreams. Even if nothing more happened, this would be not something I’d ever move on from.

Other things might be forgivable depending on people’s tolerance level. Like some people argue and have lots of drama in their marriage. Not my cup of tea but I understand that husband or wife could be forgiven for tending to argue. And people could work on arguing less

Not this stuff. I’d always think he is doing it again and what women he likes now or maybe even worse. And knowing that he has bad boundaries with women in general, that text of his would kill it for me. I’d never trust him again