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Originally Posted by MuseumGhost
((((hugggs)))), frommars, thanks for letting us know.
I also should have asked if you're seeing a doctor, and whether anxiety has been discussed. Are you taking any medications for it?
I have good and bad days, lately. My depression has lifted a lot, but my anxiety remains bad. And I have developed physical health problems that have brought with them a great deal of worry. So I can understand how you're feeling.
For instance, I feel more secure when my husband is close at hand, rather than if he's off doing something and is preoccupied. This is very different for me---I used to be so strong and independent, and adored my free time by myself.
But, for me, these feelings come and go, and vary in intensity.
I hope you can find people you feel comfortable talking to.
This is a good place to start.
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hello, no i dont take any medication. ive tried a few in the past and they made me feel weird so I stopped taking them. i dont know why this feeling is so strong and won't go away. i just desperately want someone to take care of me but at the same time im afraid of people and won't let them close. nobody seems safe enough to handle my heart.
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Originally Posted by *Beth*
I am married and have 2 grown children, but I have lived alone for over 7 years. I do well with living alone because I have to do well. Truth be told, I hate it. I am afraid and anxious all the time, especially near bedtime. I would like someone to help take care of me, and of other responsibilities, more than they do. My husband helps me some with a few very basic chores. I am immensely grateful, but what he does is a far cry from what I really need.
I very easily understand how you feel frommars. I truly don't think the way you feel is as odd as you may think it is.
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i hope it is not too odd because i feel it every day haha. thank you for sharing.
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
@ frommars I noticed your thread in the relationship forum about your mother. It’s good that you have distanced from her because she is a very unhealthy person. Just because we distance from a toxic environment or person doesn’t mean we are fixed or healed. Instead it gives us a chance to become self aware in terms of how a person or environment affected us.
It’s normal to have an insecure childlike part in self. It’s not uncommon to feel that to be around age 8 or 9 because it’s at this stage of development that we become more aware of how vulnerable we are.
It sounds like at age nine you experienced some stress at school about doing well. Then when you got home there was instability there too. It’s not unusual to experience these feelings even away from school and home. Understanding this gives each person a better understanding of self so they can slowly learn to build up ways to feel safer. |
a lot happened when i was 8 or so. i miss the security i felt from my mom before that age even though i know she's always been the same, i just started to realize things were really off around then. ever since then because of that and a lot of other things i just feel this hole in my chest all the time.