I ask potential therapists if they hug their clients. T and I have never hugged in 6 years and I don't really want to but when I saw my first t I once said something about a huh and she thought I wanted to hug her (that wasn't what I was saying) she got so freaked out and her response led to me feeling so hurt and ashamed and like there was so.rthing wrong with me. So now I ask that to just Guage their response.

I'm glad you are exploring options as I know it takes a lot of strength to leave. You deserve care that really centre's around helping you and healing you. Maybe you could ask a potential T what you could put in place to help you while they are away. I know DrT had an issue with the idea of something transitional and you felt hurt by the so how would this T help you manage when away?

Good luck!! My current t of 6 years is retiring early so I'm searching too. When I first met her I went in with a bunch of questions and we ended up talking g about what tasks we would do in the amazing race. Her answers told me everything lol