What a scary, and frankly, judgmental response from a supposed counsellor.

Really, viewing pornography is no big deal? Have you considered how demeaning and deeply damaging it might be for someone who might have confidence and/or insecurity issues and goodness knows what sort of other past baggage to have their partner lust over porn?

And, because you needed physical contact and intimacy, she should have caved in and given you what she did not want (or could not) give you?! Is she simply an object of pleasure and if she does not satisfy you, then she is in the wrong & it's okay to watch porn? How about you both see things from her perspective, and meeting her where she needed to be met, instead of demonising her.

Instead of placing all the blame at her feet, maybe you could look at how you were a participant in that dynamic between the two of you.