I've seen this counselor for 5 years.

This is the first time she's questioned my feelings of guilt.

I have shredded myself with guilt, and thought all the things you said, for 10 years.

And my wrongdoing was ultimately the ONLY topic of discussion.

If I said, please, you need to work on drinking less, please, can we look at family counselling, can you address the stuff the kids have seen with, or address the, literally, hundreds of nights of degrading anger from her, it was all beaten with, "You looked at pornography."

Every topic ultimately came to that.

Her berating anger to our oldest,her reckless driving with kids in the car, everything was beaten with, "You looked at pornography."