Dear T,
I hope you're not annoyed. You answered the question I asked with a bit of detail. I shouldn't read into your not saying anything like "hope it goes well tomorrow." I'm worried it made it seem like I wanted an answer tonight, when the only reason I was emphasizing that the meeting was tomorrow was to say that's why I was emailing rather than waiting to talk Friday.

I think we need to talk more about the email thing. As now I'm sitting here thinking "OK, I guess I have to wait 2 weeks to send another one" or at least to do so without charge, and I'd rather make it more flexible than that. Like, could you once a month look at how much I emailed, then decide what to charge and how much? Or could you give me the chance to say (when this happens), "Hey, I know I've emailed you a few times in the last few weeks, here's a check for x amount?" That would make it feel less like you're in charge. Hm...I wonder if you'd be willing at all to do that? To let me keep track myself? To trust me to do that? Or at least give me a chance to do so.

ETA: Because I think it feels punitive when you call it out, like I was bad, so if I do it, that would take that out of the equation and also be me taking responsibility. (Though of course if I did a bad job of it, you could jump in.)

Love,
LT