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for the record...we have discussed the whole transference/sexual attraction thing in depth
she admits to being a little nervous on proceeding with that so called "white elephant" in the room, but has praised me for respecting her boundaries and not displaying any behavior that would cause her to believe that I was a danger to her/me
and yes I am in the process of writing down a whole page full of crap to spew on in our next session, however I have to drag my wife to the next session so they can gang up on me about my internet pornography use....damn internet
and there are no male therapists at my office complex just 6 women
I did have a male psychologist many years ago, but he moved on to another area and doesnt do individual therapy
I prefer females (not for the obvious reasons), but I guess as Jello-Fluff stated I was drawn to a female for some sort of "motherly" yearning.....wow that sounds creepy

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<font color="blue"> HI Brian-- Someone else took my words out of context. I do not believe that the sexual attraction is necessarily true transference, just as an FYI. I have no way of measuring that as I'm not present and not capable of gauging that. I'm not even certain it is important. I certainly wouldn't internalize the "failure" as it's only failure if you become a quitter and give up on taking care of yourself.

I must ask--- why would she thank you for not displaying behavior that would cause you to be a danger to her/you if you were discussing your sexual attraction with her? Are you making inappropriate overt sexual statements or something? Why aren't you discussing what you need to and instead, distracting with comments and/or sexual suggestions toward your T? Is this an avoidance method, or do you just get a kick out of provoking a reaction? If you value your wife, don't do that in front of her when she comes with you.

Another thing.. what does it matter that there are "no male therapists" at your office complex? I think there are far more therapists in your city than exist in the office your current T works in. Are you serious here, or just pulling everyone's chain? </font>