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Originally Posted by Soupe du jour
Don't worry too much about your hair, Nammu. The funeral is meant for closure and recognition of your mom's life. She loved you as you are. Relatives are not there to judge. If they do, ignore them. An aunt who doesn't remember a niece has no right to judge. No one does. They should be there to support. If they don't, try to ignore them.
My family traditionally had the old-fashioned viewing service, grave-side funeral, then reception. We chose to do some things a little differently in recent years. Yes, those of the past had people laughing at jokes while socializing with relatives and friends not often seen. It always seemed sad that that was often the only time so many would get together.
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Thanks. We also have the traditional viewing, grave-side then reception. I’m hoping that mums siblings stay at the church and don’t come as it’s only supposed to be 30F and there’s gonna be all that snow. So I’m hoping the octogenarians and older choose to stay at church. The cemetery is a flat expanse out in the countryside. One news source says flurries the rest say clear and cold.
I’m just dreading it cause I don’t do well with lots of people. They drain me. I know the belief is that they are there to support you. For my sisters and daughter that may be true. I know I’ll get though it. With all the recent snow some may not come so it might not be as big as I fear. My father’s was in the fall and church was packed. But that was almost 30 years ago, many have died since then and others are very old.