I am also struggling with something else, I need help with this one, and I don't know how to change my thinking.

I am concerned about my ex's friends, the ones whom I texted screenshots of texts between my husband and I. I don't like the fact that I still care about what these people think of me. They think I am in the wrong, and naturally, defend my husband. He told me that they told him not to speak with me.

Why do I care what they think of me?

It's a false narrative that they have. They have one side to our story - his side - which is false and BS. He has told them many negative things about me, I am sure, and I even saw some texts that proved it. His friend had written to my ex at one point saying, "if only she would admit to her issues".

I hate the fact that his friends do not know the real truth about my husband and how he has behaved all behind closed doors. They think he's amazing and wonderful and a wonderful partner, because that's how he has portrayed himself to them. And he has portrayed ME as being the villain, the f'ed up one in the marriage and the problem.

It's just SO unfair.

And I am having fantasies about running into this couple, friends of his, and what I may say to them about it. I am fantasizing telling them that they only know ONE side to our story, and not my side. I want to tell them that if they knew what he was like in a romantic relationship and behind closed doors, that they would have a very different view on him and the whole picture of who he truly is. I want to tell them that he yelled at me for the 1st 2.5 years of marriage, that he has anger issues & treated me very poorly throughout, and that's why I had to leave him.

I wish I didn't care. But I know I will run into his friends at some point at a concert. I am trying to figure out what I may say to them, when I do?

My mother advises me to take the high road and not say a negative word about him.