Well what does it matter if they only know his side of the story? Even if you didn’t send those screenshots, as his friends it’s only expected they’d listen to him and wouldn’t be interested in hearing your side of the story. If my friend told me she’s divorcing her husband because he has issues, I’d not be concerned to investigate “the truth” or wanted to question her husband if that’s really true. He is their friend so naturally they support him. And he is not a little boy. Them telling him not to talk to you, is just what friends advise friends going through divorce.

And it’s normal that he and his friend were texting about you having issues. Don’t you do it with your friends when you have marital problems?

Like we on here support you because you are our friend, he is not. We don’t say let’s make sure her husband really is a jerk and let’s investigate. I am sure your friends support you and don’t demand to know details of what happened to make sure they should support you instead of him

The only time you should worry about how they view you if they are people who must be a huge part of your life. Here is an example when it matters. One of my nephews is married to my brother’s and sister in law’s best friend’s daughter. So they are best friends and in laws. Friends became family. It’s a bit weird situation. We all constantly in each other lives.

My brother and sister in law are married but it would be completely unacceptable for them to speak poorly of each other to friends/in laws. In laws would be in s bad shape if they had to take sides. The whole thing would be very detrimental to my nephew and his wife. And to their future kids as everyone would be a grandparent of the same kids! So friends thinking poorly of one of the spouses would be extremely detrimental to everyone involved when friends became family

In your situation… must you see these people? Hang out? Have them over? Visit them? No. So why do they need to know anything about your marriage or soon to be ex? They must know he’s a jerk, why? And they must know you are innocent, why?

You run into them at a bar? Who cares. You can run into anyone anywhere. Just walk right by. Or say “hello have a good evening” or “enjoy your meal and music”. Or just nod. Or have a casual talk if you must. Why should you say anything else? Or speak about him or your marriage? The last thing you should do is try talking about your marriage or him being a jerk. Why? They are his friends. And it won’t change.

So just try to let it go.