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Old Feb 25, 2023, 12:07 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
Sorry, i dont mean to be hurtful. Boundaries is the hardest thing to learn. There are a couple of excellent books by Mary Kate or Mary Alice, some name like that, that take you step by step.

Ive been watching catfish stories on youtube, and i see it all over there - the scammers look for people who have bad boundaries. The victims OVERLOOK all kinds of red flags - horrible English, badly made documents - this tells the scammer he can easily cross the weak boundaries, the victim wont challenge him.

I had horrible boundaries because my family bullied me. I KNEW better, but i could not act in my own best interest.
Absolutely. I have bad boundaries too. It comes from how we grow up. I got much better as I got older.
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Have Hope, unaluna
Thanks for this!
unaluna