Sorry, i dont mean to be hurtful. Boundaries is the hardest thing to learn. There are a couple of excellent books by Mary Kate or Mary Alice, some name like that, that take you step by step.

Ive been watching catfish stories on youtube, and i see it all over there - the scammers look for people who have bad boundaries. The victims OVERLOOK all kinds of red flags - horrible English, badly made documents - this tells the scammer he can easily cross the weak boundaries, the victim wont challenge him.

I had horrible boundaries because my family bullied me. I KNEW better, but i could not act in my own best interest.