Can this be possible?
Alright, I'm in my thirties; not too old to realize that these disorders are real identities to a bundle of functions a person carries, but not too young to feel that it carries the stigma of copping out of the responsibility of organization and being active mentally and physically.
Before I digress further, back to the question. Given the concerns and background thoughts of ADD and ADHD, I have found more traits in common than not to this disorder and cannot avoid questioning whether I'm just being a lazy bum, hypochondrical bum I should say; or, is there more merit and perhaps a path to reign in my overactive mind, focusing it on the task at hand, life.
My brother and I exhibit the same traits; but, are not intellectually on the same level. I'm not saying that I am more intelligent or that he is less, but we each are savants in separate, different areas with little overlap, if any. For the longest time, I figured that we were manic-depressive or at least were borderline in that regard. I turn the depression and anger inward until my thoughts are too loud. My Brother exerts his anger often without thinking.

How can we identify what is relevant and singular, given that he and I relate to ADD/ADHD?
Secondly, he and I are in our early thirties; I being younger than he by three years. We have aspirations of grandeur which, I fear, an official diagnosis would or could jeopardize these paths. How do I address this... I fear diagnosis. I fear I have this, but somehow moving forward with getting help will make it more real and more controlling on what I can or cannot accomplish.

Any thoughts are appreciated.