Oh Kit, massive hugs to you. I think this message from her just sums everything up. She clearly cares a great deal about you, but just doesn't know how to communicate with you in an appropriate way for a therapist or how to be an appropriate therapist for you. You can care a great deal about your clients, and you can be less boundaried, but still be professional, but sadly this didn't come across very professional to me, and I would have been hurt, too. I'm so sorry, but I am so glad for you that you have found someone else and I hope that they are good for you. Please don't beat yourself up about anything, I am sure that your Ex T will be just fine. Maybe try and take away from this that she thinks you are making the right decision, for you.