Hi I’m new here. I’ve spent time reading others posts and see a lot of people hurt and stuck and not knowing how to move forward. My marriage after almost 25 years has come to a standstill. I love my husband but I know that I’ve outgrown him and this relationship.. I know that divorce will devastate him and I want to protect him from that any way I can. I find myself feeling terrible guilt when I think of a future where I can experience a sense of wholeness that this marriage has never given me. I know it is best for both of us. And I believe we can remain friends once the hard pet is over. But I just don’t know how to move forward. What steps to take to minimize the pain for both of us. Any advice from someone whose been there and better on the other side is appreciated.