Dear T,

I'm glad I got some of that out, even though it was difficult. Thanks for being understanding. I hope we really can talk about some of this stuff, to figure out why I want what I do from you (and others). That maybe it will help you understand more. It would help me immensely if you could understand and validate the needs/wants, even if the answer to some of them is no.

I mean, I imagine much of this comes back to what I needed/wanted from my parents. A question a friend asked me led to some good insight about the money thing. Where I probably felt deprived by my parents, when I learned that they could easily afford something, like a second landline or a box of cereal that wasn't on sale, but they still denied giving it.

I hope this will help us move forward and get something productive out of the conflicts. To help me better understand myself. And also how to help me figure out how to meet those needs, whether from myself or from others. I guess I first need to understand the needs in order to get them met.

Love,
LT