I think this "offshoot" discussion of sexy and how we dress is interesting. I am overweight and have negative body images. I have been working on accepting my body as "my oldest frient" as Bellaruth Naparstek says. The one time I discussed body image with T, I flipped out, dissociated and lost it completely!

I do think that when we say something is "sexy" we mean it is appealing in a way that attracts us and maybe raises our hormone levels a tad. For example, cars are often thought of a sexy.

I used to wear loose clothing all the time and dressed neutral. When I was younger tho, I wore attractive clothing. However i ALWAYS wore and still wear lipstick. I get my toenails done in the summer and I shave my pits and legs. LOL

Recently I lost a few pounds and tho I am far from slim I am wearing more form fitting clothes. I like showing my body! I like wearing jewelry and just feeling/being feminine. No, it doesn't mean I'm ready for sex, just that I am not ashamed of who I am and what my body looks like.