There's a couple we know. They've been together since high school.

A few years ago he sank into a terrible depression. He got counselling, got meds, but ultimately decided he had married the wrong person. He didn't hate her or wish her any ill will. He just decided that he'd made a decision when he was too young and he needed to be on his own.

My wife thought that was the most ridiculous thing ever.

When I said, You're doing the same thing, she adamantly denied it was anything similar to what she was doing. She said, he's just leaving to go pursue a single life chase other women. I said, So are you; you talked about pursuing relationships with men on the side but staying here and remaining married.

No. Not the same. You broke me.

I will say again, I owned that enormous wrongdoing and mistake. She talked to some close friends about it, and we told our families about it, because IF it resulted in her leaving I didn't want the blame to be on her.

Ten years of commitment didn't undo it.

I own my mistakes.

A disordered person looks for someone to blame... That was good to hear.