I do not think that sexy has to be equated with an "object." Art can be sexy, certain color combinations can be sexy, a man can be sexy, a woman can feel sexy by herself-- there are a million ways that sexy can be looked at/felt without it being an object.

One thing that does bother me is women who wear low cut shirts or whatever and then complain when a guy looks. What do you expect? I know that if I wear a certain outfit and get a comment or a look, I am not going to react because I chose to wear that particular thing-- no, I don't wear certain stuff for the PURPOSE of having a man look at me-- I wear it because it's what I like and what I feel comfortable in. And you know what else I think? It's not always that bad to be looked at. Physical appearance is important to me. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

MissCharlotte, I think it is awesome that you are feeling comfortable with your body.

A lot of my current body issues deal with the damage I have done with my SI. As much as I am comfortable with showing my body, I did not respect it enough to hold back from ruining it. That makes me upset, but also allows me to realize just how big the problem is and how there are no consequences that can help to stop it.

Music can be very sexy, too.