I told her this often. To me, the ultimate validation of attraction was a willing sexual partner. I didn't have that with her. She straight up told me, "I don't need sex very much." When I said I really needed this, and just contact and affection, she suggested we divorce.
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She told you long ago that your needs were not important to her.

That has not changed RD. When people tell you things like she did and still does BELIEVE THEM.