If not for this site I’d think it was just me. I didn’t realize until now how much my parents lied to me and favored my older brother. They are long gone now but if confronted they’d say I’m too sensitive, making a big deal out of nothing, etc. They were so invalidating and unloving that they never should have been parents. Yet we idolize parents in our culture and think they know best. There are no tests to pass, licenses to get, etc. to be parents. Supposedly dysfunctional parents came from dysfunctional families themselves and the cycle repeats.

My mom once told me they are leaving “everything” to us. In hindsight she didn’t say “everything EQUALLY”. I found out from a realtor acquaintance that my parents added my brother’s name to the title of their house over 20 years ago. And left me out obviously. Lied to me about how they bought the house next door so they can sell it to my brother. Turns out he bought it from the previous owners directly. And shortly before dad passed, he signed over the house to Brother Dearest. So now my brother owns 2 houses and could do anything such as sell or rent one of them. And get rich.

He hasn’t spoken to me in years and my previous attempts to reconcile was met with just hostility and rejection. He’s been vicious and sneaky about the Trust such as not sharing information with me. Until I got my own lawyer he’s been trying to get away with stuff.

It’s not really about money for me either. It’s the betrayal from my parents. I ASSUMED they would treat us equally. They left me in a vulnerable position by not even TELLING me this document existed, let alone give me a copy! Of course my psycho brother had a copy.

My parents were emotionally distant and like Vulcans on Star Trek. No emotions or contempt for them. It didn’t occur to them how I’d FEEL about their behavior. Or thought I’d never find out.

My only consolation, if you can call it that, is that the lawyers told me how common this is, and this site shows it’s not just me.

D a m n my parents. Thought they were so perfect and always criticized people, especially other parents.



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