It sounds like your communication with your therapist led to you feeling really bad. I suggest, if you see them again, to discuss this with them, clarify what they meant and how it made you feel.

I had a really difficult journey through different therapists, with some of them saying things to me that were very upsetting and I turned it in on myself, too. A therapist is not supposed to say harsh, hurtful things. They are supposed to, well… be therapeutic. I don’t know why a few of them said some really awful, triggering things to me.

One actually said to me, “You probably never would have been happy with anybody.” This got under my skin so badly, I am still reeling about it years later! I have since learned a lot about what therapists are supposed to do, and there really was no good reason for them to have done that to me. It was triggering and dangerous to me.

So be careful of seeing the wrong therapists, and keep looking for a good one. No matter what issue you are dealing with, there is hope for you, and there is no shame in needing support.