You know Kim, I don't think we are disagreeing either. What I am hearing is that we have differing views on what sexy means. While reading your post I realized that tight jeans and a t-shirt can be sexy as well! So.....yeah, I agree, it seems as though your colleague is a bit misguided as to appropriate wardrobe choices. I went to a diversity training recently and the facilitator wondered how many in the audience had to decided whether an outfit was appropriate for work "because it showed too much cleavage?" His point was to make men aware of things that women have to think about everyday!

However, I also think that if you have a nice body men will look at it. There is a natural sort of attraction that occurs! And many men are sexist and don't "listen" as they should in business setting. Maybe you can suggest a diversity training for your workplace!