thanks for ur advice it really did help alot. ive been talking a lot more with her and it brought us closer. we both have not sought out any type of help. i for one dont want any help. i dont think im ready for it. as or her she tells me she wants to be happy and shes ready to get rid of her disease and start all over again. she has been getting help now. thanks for reading and posting ur advice it really did help me a lot