Yes,this is common with a caretaker personality. I met both men and women at Alanon meetings that were tired and struggling with a sense of hopelessness. Along with that a loneliness that I grew to feel for myself.

Usually there is more there than just the alcoholism. Often there is underlying bipolar or borderline or adhd or even trauma to name a couple where the alcohol is used and abused as a form of self medicating.

There are most definitely behaviors that are very similar to NPD within alcohol and even drug use disorders.

This leaves the partner and even child feeling like they are never enough. And that’s the reality.