Talked to my brother tonight. He starts chemo and radiation next week. I'm scared for him - I mean I feel confident he has a good chance of beating the cancer, but I worry what it's going to be like for him being home all the time as he's prone to depression.

My mother is being her usual narcissistic self, so you would think my brother's cancer is about HER. Unfortunately she also has a habit of spreading misinformation. Apparently someone in her seniors' residence said he'd had radiation in that area and it was very painful. So she told my brother this like WTF? He doesn't need to dread it more than he is.

My brother also said that my mother told him I don't mind being in debt. I said no such thing. I simply refused to talk to her about my finances anymore. My husband and I struggled a great deal during Covid, when my hours were cut and he lost his job. We still managed to make our mortgage payments and recently paid our mortgage off. So yes, we have some debts that we had to incur, but we're okay and her constant negative gossip about our finances wears me down. She seems to think it was our fault that we lost money during Covid, even though she speaks sympathetically about others who went through similar struggles.


My brother and I always tell each other what she says because we don't want her to tell each other false things... but I'm thinking of asking my brother not to tell me - it really hurts my feelings no matter how full of b.s. I know she is.