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Originally Posted by divine1966
Unless I am losing my mind, I think I’ve read exact same thread with all the same details before. In fact more than once. Am I wrong? You asked the same questions before and received suggestions re art class and not responding to messages and all other issues. It’s unlikely that you’ll get different responses every time.
It doesn’t sound like your old friend is interested in a deep friendship. She seems ok with occasional messages but nothing more than that. I am sorry you are hurting as it sounds like you want to keep friendship going. She just doesn’t seem interested. I’d step back and give her space
Many people maintain high school friendships but many move on with their lives. I remained friends with two high school classmates. But just two. Not all of them.
I’d not try to analyze her dating patterns. It’s her business. And it doesn’t seem fair. Am not sure why you give her dating advice. It seems unsolicited and is perhaps offensive. You tell her to date based on astrological sign? Why? Did she ask for dating advice? Actually as I recall from previous threads you often give her advice about her life as well as judge how she does things. I wonder if it contributes to her lack of interest in friendship. People don’t want advice unless they asked for it
It’s probably time to look for new friends. You can’t make people be your friends. Just because someone is nice and help you, it doesn’t mean they want to be close friends or want unsolicited advice about their life.
Is it easy to make friends? No. But nothing in life is easy. I also recommend therapy and perhaps someone like life coach?. It would be very beneficial
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yes I've spoken about it before here that's why said this "I've posted perviously of this friend, however this is a update from then. I have mention the history here just for those that don't know about it)
So you not losing your mind haha.
If you read half way it's new stuff.
Me leaving the art class and what she said etc.
How she knew I was doing everything and said it wasn't a secert. And didn't seem to care.
I was taken by her a rollercoaster of her problems..
I haven't spoken to her for a month to see if she would come back to me. Because I was always doing the contacting or ask to hang out. Since she hasn't spoken to me I worry I have done something wrong but if I check the facts I haven't done anything obviously mean.
I just feel used by her emotionally and I wonder if she knew that whole time and when I was no use to her, she was like see ya.
The dating thing, I mention that to give a idea of her personatily. How she drops men she must do it to other friends maybe?
My sister thought maybe she has traits of narc.
Just because she told me at the age of ten she thought she was better than everyone else, so much so she didn't have anything friends until she went to high school.