If you jump right into solving the problem at hand with out saying anything. How is that a problem to anybody?I see your trait as a desirable one.A lot of issues in this world arise out of not fixing an existing problem,I think.Nevermind the judgement of others.
I was a chronic people pleaser,and given time,energy and a lot of other resources to many people. With out even expecting anything in return,and in fact I never got anything in return.After exhausting myself to the point of insanity I paused and reflected.Now I have boundaries in place,I only maintain reciprocal relationships.I have stopped being useful to manipulative users and abusers.I heard recently some of them are smearing me as being cold,selfish and arrogant.Do I care?No.I chuckle to myself.Look who is talking?They are projecting their own bad traits onto me.Stay strong .You know yourself.don't you?