DISCLAIMER: i'm presenting a view, no judgements, no argument toward anyone here - k? Please, no one yell at me or get mean.. i cannot process it... but i wanted to share my ideas

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Is that a comparable thing to a well endowed women wearing a revealing t-shirt?

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No.. no it isnt the same. There isn't a history of societal pressure on men to be so fricking worried about a peak of flesh showing. we're made to be afraid of our own bodies... boob? OMG and its not just clothing... its everywhere.. there is awhole period in art in which women were painted without any nipples or hair "there." Even now... the differences between what is acceptable for men's bodies vs women's is astounding. . Go look at "old art" all the nude women are generally reclining and looking away somehow... so that the male viewers could consume the female's nudity, eyeball her without feeling as though she were looking. (that isn't my own opinion, that is one of those art-facts) We've been told what to do/wear etc based largely on men's desires/reactions/etc. Is the opposite true? Nope.

im not responding to you kim, as much as the girls/guys you describe... the first issue being, whose issue is it if Wendy can't keep her mind off of sex? If Bob wears a baggy shirt then it solves her issues? How baggy does it need to be? How do we set that standard? Kind of scary really... where that leads.. It really becomes a rapid decent into "she was asking for it." That isnt an accusation.. just think about it... how many women were judged as "deserving" what they got because they wore a short skirt... one big spectrum.

Try reading about George Sands, or exploring the history of the female nude in art... it is enlightening on the issue of how our own ideas about what is acceptable got shaped... without us being aware of it.

how do any of the women here feel about being "scary" to others? just wondering...

Miss... T is not including you in that group that he is scared of? you are a woman.. makes me feel really insecure that T might possibly be "afraid" of me... or hate the idea of working with me.. It's not a happy thought.