I really don't believe she ever drove while under the influence. I truly, truly don't believe that.

She drank throughout the day. It was a constant low dose and she would not drive unless she had 1-2 hours from her last sip.

She was not loud when she came to the house. It did surprise us. She has said stuff to me on the phone and over text repeatedly that she needs us out of the house and the house has to be sold immediately because she needs the money. She has said repeatedly how much money she is going to take from me.

The article on narcissism and alcohol hit a lot of points. Her continuous deflection of blame and refusal to accept responsibility are real.

As for the kids..... I have played down a lot of their feelings and tried to find solutions and make peace for a long time.

Now our oldest is taking a hard stance against his mother. I will not let him stand alone.

Our daughter has asked for no contact. I won't let her do that alone.

They need me. I won't invalidate them.

For that, my wife will deflect, blame, and be extremely angry. I always loved and wanted her so standing up to her and taking her anger is hard for me.