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Old Mar 13, 2023, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted by smile1217 View Post
but I am feeling like the abuser right now by the times I’ve had emotional outbursts towards him & said hurtful things to him…
That's called reactive abuse. You reduce yourself to their level because no other communication method or approach has worked. And yes, they can turn it around on you, accusing you of being the abuser, when in fact, they are the abuser. Don't feel awful about this... it's sooo common and very natural to react to abuse in these ways!
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