This is the common wisdom, but what is "disappointment"? I think toxic friends who use us are one thing, but friends who disappoint us may be in another group. As an example I have a friend who regularly ghosts me, but the same friend loaned me a *large* sum of money (I paid her back) and has always been there when I really needed someone. She has her own issues including depression and I've known her 21 years.


It seems like many people are friendless, and that's what makes me question why people are dropping friends. If it's for things like tardiness, social awkwardness or things that might be out of someone's control. People have flaws.


I personally would also rather have casual friends than no friends at all. So I'm not going to necessarily drop someone because the friendship has cooled down or is not going to deepen.

Again, I would never encourage anyone to remain friends with someone who is toxic or abusive.