I had a lawyer on retainer. He was not very good. I met with him several times.

Since then I've had consultations with three lawyers about my case, talked to two lawyer friends, and now have one of the lawyers I consulted with on retainer.

I can't imagine her pushing her way back in, although I go through moments of fear.

The kids won't live with her. If she does show up back here I'm sure there are legal grounds to have her removed. That would be very very hard and heartbreaking to do.

One of my lawyer friends told me liquidating the family home can easily be deferred for a looooong time. He has a client where the youngest is 25 and still picking away at college, so they can't liquidate the family home until he's done post secondary education.