I doubt it... Honestly, they can't see a parentified child, or a scapegoat, or any other oppressive role for what it is. The more I read, the more I get the sense that they know what they are doing, but don't really "get it." Kwim? Like someone might get that they are doing something passive aggressive, and they like it, but they won't label it something negative, and in their own heads, they rationalize it. Too often, it seems like we give these people credit for being smart or clever when they're really just slinging stuff everywhere to get something to stick in a way that makes them feel better.

At least we see it. That's all that matters, right?