I know dysfunctions can be generational.But I can assure you,both of my parents were raised in loving families.They were not parentified like I was. Both sets of grand parents were helpful if needed.So resources were available for them. Specially my maternal grandmother doted on her kids.I have seen that until she passed away.I am not sure why my parent is like that.Grandios narc,maybe?I have had relationships with my grandparents..They are really good people. At least not abusers.I sometimes think,granny doted on my mom too much,treated her like a queen of the earth. She did everything for her,worshipped the ground my mom walked on ,so to speak.My mom wanted to continue her queen status,made me the slave once I came along.