Yup and right now my life feels like trying to find my way thru a never ending chain of partially submerged icebergs while piloting the Titanic on a foggy night. I'm in such a low place right now.

My efforts at being the best supportive me has resulted recently in a comment of " it feels like you're putting in a last ditch effort to show me you're a nice guy "

How do I even respond to that??

Of course I have, I heard her at the beginning of all this and have been working hard on my therapy to become a better me . I have accepted fault for stuff I haven't even been doing.
I have figured out some stuff about me, I am showing growth and all she can see is deception??

She hasn't addressed her stuff she acknowledged much at all in the last few months . Her answer is "she struggles"
It must be convenient not working on her stuff while being always ready to criticize my progress and accuse it of being insincere . 😰

It just feels atm like no matter what I do she will just move the goalposts . .