Hello Everyone........ I am a newbie to PC. I joined on Thurs. 6/5/08. I have visited and read many forums. I am looking for help with my troubled mind.

Ok, here goes. My husband and I argue about sex. I have never had a big sex drive, and he knew this going into the marriage. We have been married for 8yrs this year, and dated 6yrs before getting married. I found out when our second child was month old that he had been having an affair for "about a year" he said. Come to find out.....he had multiple affairs. He said all but one was one night stands (like that made it ok). Anyway, we decided to try and make our family work. That was 3yrs ago now. When we got back together after separating for 6mths our relationship was completely different. We made time for each other, and time for family. Things were great. TODAY....I am back to having to ask for a date, and my husband is back to getting pissed off because I don't want to have sex.

Should we try counseling or should I just get Over_IT??? I don't know what my problem is. I would like to blame it on a low sex drive, but I am afraid that maybe it is due to resentment. I do not look at him as I use to. I do not have feelings for him as I use to. I am completely and totally afraid to care for him as I use to. HELP