My therapist actually said yesterday what I'd always thought myself. That he thinks that I would do better with a male therapist than a female one. He's great, and I've really really attached to him. And my experiences with female therapists have been less positive. It's my suspicion that female therapists are more likely to judge me negatively on my appearance, since I'm not terribly attractive and I don't use makeup or anything to try to make that any better. I'm not sure why he thinks I'd do better with a male therapist. He didn't really say.

On the other hand, I've also had negative experiences with male therapists. I think the truth is that very very few therapists of either sex would suit me. Many are way too soft. Many are way too firm. And very very few are just right.