You are NOT A SISSY; it does take time to heal, and you are NOT a failure you have much to give, just give yourself time to heal, you do deserve that time. Don't let people who don't understand how other cope with loss tell you how you should feel.

Here is a link of a card for you to check out and hope it makes you feel a little better. I know how you feel with loss, and I'm still coping with mine. Keep posting anytime!

http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/yesterday-tears.php