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Originally Posted by RDMercer
Struggling today. I'm questioning a lot.
My kids' counselors advised them they are better off with me and to put up strong boundaries with their mother.
So, I talked today about behaviors and words that were really concerning from mom.
In my mind, my wife's accusations that I manipulated the kids and drove them away from her, that I drove her out of our home, and that I spoke to the kids about things that belonged between us, and built a financial plan with our oldest instead of her are all ringing loudly.
This is always the issue... the partial truth, or the truth without context, and never any blame on her part.
I feel so much guilt and am questioning a lot this evening.
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A way to move forward is to not absorb or internalize your wife's accusations and blame. You listen to her words, and you absorb them as truth. You're going to need to stop doing that in order to truly heal and move forward. Her accusations and blame TWIST the truth - she does not take ANY responsibility for the breakdown of the marriage. Absorb your own truth in the matter. Absorb and internalize within you that you are not going to accept her blame and false accusations. Stop listening to her. Listen to yourself. Tell yourself what the truth is - live in your own reality and truth.